Embracing the Shelley-ness

Posted by Shelley on Jul 17, 2017 in Uncensored Shelley

I’m turning 45 next week.  Found this blog post that I never posted dated June 12, 2012.  I wonder if it will post today’s date or 5 years ago?

on the brink of 40, it is time to embrace all things Shelley. here are a few things that come to mind:

1) being okay with being quiet.  today canon realized it was quiet, he said, “wait, something’s not right here, it’s too quiet…” and I responded, “I know! isn’t it great!” not sure if this started with me being an only child for 7 years or if it’s the fact that since I’ve had kids I gave up my right to be myself and have been trying to reclaim it for 13 years. it’s one of two.

2) being a gypsy or joining the circus. even though Mom said she’d sell me to gypsies I sort of wish she would’ve. after seeing the My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding and such I realize that part of me is a gypsy. moving quite a bit, changing schools, changing friends… I think I miss that. but that was so long ago. I digress.

3) being Southern. very much so. I understand what it means when someone asks “who are your people?” and realize my answer is of utmost importance. I know my manners precede my reputation and the fact that I say “yes ma’am” and “no sir” will right many wrongs. the southern-ness part of me deserves a post all in itself. some of that is lost in the culture now-a-days. I’m at fault with that to a degree – but when I think about it I realize being gracious, being sincere (even when you say, “bless your heart”), frying up REALLY good chicken (need to learn this, like, soon), knowing that you ALWAYS sit down to smoke a cigarette (never have smoked a day in my whole life but I know enough to know a real southern lady ALWAYS sits down to this), understanding that china patterns and silverware choices say a lot about southern woman… these are distinctions that set me apart from the rest of the women in United States. just like I wouldn’t understand what the women in the OC are really about, no one could possibly understand all this unless they were born and bred here.

4) being forgetful. number four is something I can’t remember right now.

5) being a little persistent. This used to have to do with making money, now this has everything to do with my kids. i.e.: repeating myself over and over to my children in hopes they will become socially graceful. sitting down at lunch recently with my 2 children made me realize just how southern I really am. all of a sudden it mattered more to me what they were about to do than if I had gluten on my plate. use your manners. PLEASE. nothing has left me more worried than the lack of my children using good southern manners. NAPKIN – in your lap. SILVERWARE – work outside to inside. DON’T SPILL YOUR (sweet) TEA. CHEW WITH YOUR MOUTH CLOSED (by far my biggest pet peeve, nothing says poor upbringing than smacking your way through a meal, or smacking your gum, but I digress…)

6) being appreciative. Hand-written thank you notes. Lord help me if this is a hoop to jump through on my way to heaven. b/c not just myself but my two off-spring will suffer these consequences. when I got married the only conversation I had with my mother for 6 weeks afterwards was, “did you write your thank you notes?” and God forbid I said no. The wrath of the mother-of-the bride was alive in well in 1995. so, just to be clear, if you are reading this please know I probably owe you a hand-written thank you note. I will get around to this. just be patient.

7) being persistent. see? refer to number 5. persistence is a virtue right? also, not talking with your mouth full is a virtue all in itself. DO NOT TALK WITH YOUR MOUTH FULL. I mean, were you raised by wolves? or cavemen? do not do this. I could not do this growing up or I would not be here right now. don’t do it. ever.

8) being in love. I love romance. I love poetry. I love the man becoming the hero. luckily, I married one :) A hero, and a poet.

9) being good with wine.  Wine is good. Tequila is better.

10) achieving a goal. I hate it when I don’t hit one. I am very achievement oriented. goal-oriented? I think it is more of an achievement thing b/c it has to do with completing a task. which is whole ‘nother thing. as I’ve gotten older, I will distinctly not begin a task if I don’t think I can finish. this began when I became a mother. please understand that the accomplishment with my children has super-ceded anything I would’ve done for myself. so, achieving with them will ALWAYS be accomplished. it may or may not be successful but it will be a done deal. eventually I will bring this back around to myself, my goals and accomplishments but for right now it’s all about them. and that’s all I have to say about that. (bold font and italics added in 2017.)

11) being among the animals.  cats and dogs. lizards or gerbils. it’s all the same. except cats are WAY more expensive. for a number of reasons.

12) I like to read. short, reader’s digest sized stories.

13) I LOVE history. I really do. should’ve majored in history. digressing…..

14) I love flower gardens. when I close my eyes and see my Eden it is full of flowers. not so much people. but flowers.

15) Favorite quote: in the words of Scarlett O’Hara, “I can’t think about that right now. If I do, I’ll go crazy. I’ll think about that tomorrow.” btw, she was schizophrenic in real-life. lawsy mercy.

16) I love a calendar. I love to write on it or these days, type and sync. maybe it’s an accomplishment thing (see number 10) but whatever the case, I have written in calendars for years and keep them as momentos.

2017 footnote:  this blog is like a calendar.  I do not remember writing this entry that wasn’t published in 2012.  but here it is.  so, yes, a blog is like a calendar but more of a momento.


Thirty Days of Thankful – Days 29 and 30

Posted by Shelley on Nov 30, 2010 in Mike, Real Life Stories, Uncensored Shelley, kids

Thankful for the mystery of the past and how it shaped the present.

Thankful for what the future holds.

Thankful for old friends and new ones.

Thankful for it all. Every last bit if it! And how God uses it all to become His great story!


Thirty Days of Thankful – Days 26, 27 and 28

Posted by Shelley on Nov 28, 2010 in Uncensored Shelley

Before I delve into Christmas decorating I must decorate for the next official holiday.

The Southeastern Championship Football Game – THIS SATURDAY!

We are orange and blue around here. From the diplomas, to the Auburn Creed, to the paintings of Samford Hall and Toomer’s Corner – not to mention an amazing picture of the Flush, framed, signed by the artist and numbered, hung above our fireplace mantle…Mike bought my engagement ring on South College Street…in addition to my dad’s tuition towards his pharmacy degree from AU my parents paid 3 kids tuition to Auburn University…after December 6th we’ll go green and red. But until then, War Eagle ya’ll.

We’ve watched much football over the Thanksgiving holiday and I can say in all my 38 years I’ve never such. I’ve watched Auburn since I was an itty bitty girl and now, in the 21st century we are actually going to the SEC championship game. I say “we” because, it is, “we.” We’ll be there in just a few short days! Like, we have tickets. To the game. Can you tell I’m excited?!?

Auburn had the National Championship. In 1957. That, was like, in the last century.

So, this comes as a huge moment, as a life-long fan, as ONE woman who only applied to only ONE school for college (in 1989) and has ONE degree (1994) from that ONE school… well, it’s three days of thankful and I can tell you I’m thankful for much but I’m most definitely thankful for the celebration, fanfare and excitement that will be found at this ONE game.

I know…it’s football…but…I was born in Auburn/Opelika! It can’t be helped! It’s ridiculous I know. It’s an Auburn thing. It runs deep. It’s a connection to the past, the future and the present. It’s a big freakin’ deal and I’m thankful! Glory, glory to ole Auburn! A-U-B-U-R-N!!!


Thirty Days of Thankful – Day 25

Posted by Shelley on Nov 26, 2010 in Uncensored Shelley

What a great Thanksgiving day! So grateful for all the (gluten free!!!!) food and all the thoughtful hands who prepared it. So blessed to enjoy family game time (Apples to Apples) and to have lots of laughter and joy (special thanks to the Bill Dance fishing bloopers DVD, a new family tradition maybe?!?!)

The memories I have of today will be tucked into a special place in my heart. My mind will remember today, just like it remembered Thanksgiving of days gone by when I woke up this morning. And with a spirit of thankfulness I’m still remembering those good thoughts as I go to bed tonight.


Thirty Days of Thankful – Day 24

Posted by Shelley on Nov 24, 2010 in Uncensored Shelley

In no particular order: today I’m thankful for hair spray (some things will never change!), the Vince Guaraldi Trio (puts the Merry in Christmas to me!), and for friends who can just drop in anytime for a visit, even though they know I might be in the middle of CHAOS (aka – can’t have anyone over syndrome – HA!).

Here’s to a Happy Thanksgiving! Cheers!


Thirty Days of Thankful – Days 22 and 23

Posted by Shelley on Nov 23, 2010 in Uncensored Shelley

Very thankful the antibiotic I got yesterday and the fact acute bronchitis is becoming a distant memory. Also very thankful for this handy-dandy iPhone device which seems to do it all, including keeping me on the right roads on a quick trip to Tuscaloosa. Thankful for the box fans we brought up from the basement since the funky hot, cold, muggy, weather has seemed to cause quite a heat wave in our house. But overall I’m grateful for today in so many, many ways. Thank you God for seeing to my every need today!


Thirty Days of Thankful – Days 19 and 20

Posted by Shelley on Nov 20, 2010 in Uncensored Shelley

Thankful for my home, a place where the ones I love the most live, play and eat (sometimes they sleep).

When we moved here, right after 9/11 in 2001, I remember telling God this is another tool in my toolbox to do his work. I remember feeling almost guilty, so many had lost so much at that time and here I was with a 2 year old baby girl, a husband and a new home. For whatever reason He chose this for me, just like that awful event in America’s history, to become a part of his great story.

My new house was to be a place to be about his business, recognizing that this might be the only “church” some people might ever see. Thank you God, for giving me a culturally-relevant place to do your kingdom work.


Thirty Days of Thankful – Days 9 and 10

Posted by Shelley on Nov 10, 2010 in Uncensored Shelley

It is that time of year of again, where we see the stars and stripes hanging proudly, banks and post offices are closed and kids get a day off from school in the middle of the week. It is Veteran’s Day and one of my most heartfelt “government holidays”. I always get teary-eyed when I see our fellow Americans in uniform and realize what they have truly done for me and my country. Wow.

The 11th day of November has become somewhat bigger than what I remember of it when I was younger. Here lately we’ve had school assemblies, church services and various other tributes that happen in honor of our veterans, much more so than I remember as a child. Or maybe I just notice it more now. Now the sacrifices and the freedoms I enjoy daily have become my life, my liberty and the pursuit of my own happiness. Other Americans, and their service and dedication to our country, have enabled me to have this blog, cast my right to vote last week and go to church where I wanted to go to church this past Sunday where I wanted to go. It is with a grateful heart and true American spirit that I honor those who protect my children, my home and my dreams with their lives.

Thank you God for allowing the United States to be part of your great story and for placing me, at such a time as this, to be a citizen of this great nation.


Thirty Days of Thankful – Days 5 and 6

Posted by Shelley on Nov 7, 2010 in Uncensored Shelley

continuing a concerted effort towards a spirit of thankfulness…

I am grateful for a real place called Heaven. As a professing Christian, believing that only in and through Christ Jesus, I have an invitation stamped with grace to enter in God’s presence. That this salvation is not about good works and that all my sins, past, present and future were taken on by Jesus as he became the propitiation for me – appeasing the wrath of an offended God and reconciling me to Him, by death on a cross.

I can enter Heaven, at my appointed time, like my Dad and others before him and become perfected physically and mentally. Knowing love, trust and peace wait on me, in a real place called Heaven is what I am thankful for today. Thank you God for making that offer available to everyone, to be welcomed into Heaven as believers in Christ. And thank you that I see you also meant it for me, and for my Dad, to be a part of your great story.


Thirty Days of Thankful – Day 4

Posted by Shelley on Nov 4, 2010 in Uncensored Shelley

Hem your blessings with thankfulness so they don’t unravel. ~Author Unknown

Today’s quote and my thankfulness is inspired by Mike’s grandmother. Rushing through the week I finally stopped long enough to remember Melodi still needed a hem for her choir dress which will be worn next week at their first performance. I don’t sew. I hot-glue. And there was an awful lot of fabric to contend with.

Melodi’s seamstress has always been great-grandmom Alford and in my time of need she cheerfully agreed to work on the hem. I am forever grateful to her! I am so thankful that God knew I would need some domestic help in this area. And through her sweet spirit I have seen how to hem my blessings as part of His great story.

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